Why Does He Do That?

"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control."

"He can be sweet and gentle."

"He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father."

"He's had a really hard life..."

Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this ground...

"He doesn't mean to hurt me-he just loses control."

"He can be sweet and gentle."

"He's scared me a few times, but he never hurts the children-he's a great father."

"He's had a really hard life..."

Women in abusive relationships tell themselves these things every day. Now they can see inside the minds of angry and controlling men-and change their own lives. In this groundbreaking book, a counselor shows how to improve, survive, or leave an abusive relationship, with:

€ The early warning signs

€ Nine abusive personality types

€ How to tell if an abuser can change, is changing, or ever will

€ The role of drugs and alcohol

€ What can be fixed, and what can't

€ How to leave a relationship safely

伦迪·班克罗夫特

Lundy Bancroft

美国作家、家暴咨询专家、受虐儿童救济专家，美国首个家暴者心理课程项目联合主管。班克罗夫特从事家暴干预工作长达二十余年，长期为遭受家暴的人群做第一线的咨询工作，接触过大量家暴实施者和受害者，在相关领域具有极丰富的经验。他共出版了六本防止/应对家庭暴力或虐待儿童相关的图书。《他为什么打我》为其代表作，十余年中长销不败。